Sunday, January 6, 2013


Saw this on Facebook. Good advice: ‎40 WAYS TO BETTER HEALTH IN 2013 - 1. Drink plenty of water. 2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar. 3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants, and eat less food that is manufactured in plants. 4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy. 5. Make time for prayer and reflection 6. Play more games. 7. Read more books than you did in 2012. 8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. 9. Sleep for at least 7 hours. Personality: 10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day —- and while you walk, smile. 11. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 12. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment. 13. Don’t over do; keep your limits. 14. Don’t take yourself so seriously; no one else does. 15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip. 16. Dream more while you are awake. 17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. 18. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. 19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others. 20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present. 21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. 22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. 23. Smile and laugh more. 24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. Community: 25. Call your family often. 26. Each day give something good to others. 27. Forgive everyone for everything. 28. Spend time with people over the age of 70&under the age of 6. 29. Try to make at least three people smile each day. 30. What other people think of you is none of your business. 31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch. Life: 32. Do the right things. 33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful. 34. Forgiveness heals everything. 35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. 37. The best is yet to come. 38. When you awake alive in the morning, don’t take it for granted – embrace life. 39. Your inner most is always happy. So, be happy and ENJOY LIFE! Last but not least: 40. Grow your relationship with God !!

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

2013, So Glad To See You!

I have to say that 2012 was one of my worst years. I have never been a big celebrator of New Year's. I don't drink or socialaize, so what do I care about a night where everyone wants to just get drunk and party? In the past, I have actually considered New Year's to be my most hated holiday. That would be because in the past, I have spent every New Year's Eve recounting all the bad things that had happened prior to then and anticipating how bad the next year was going to be. Not this time. Around October, something happened. I was severely depressed for quite a while. I've never been so upset that I went an entire week without eating, but I hit a very low point this year and did just that. I think I had allowed things to pile up for so long that it just took one more thing to break me and eventually it happened. But in getting broken, I came to some realizations. People hurt me because I let them. I cry because I don't replace the tears with a smile. My world is ugly because ugliness is all I let in. I have so many blessings but all my life, I've been the type to focus on the bad, to wallow in the hurt and misery. I was sadder than I've ever been this year,, but I took a look around me. I saw mothers who had survived the loss of children, other mothers worrying about their babies struggling to live, children abused, and people with barely enough food to eat. I have three wonderful children. I have a roof over my head, and food on the table. I have no reason to be sad. Bad things happen. Pain is inevitable, but focusing on it only makes it hurt more. I couldn't wait for 2013 to get here because when the clock struck midnight... I let all the bad go. I said my goodbyes to anyone who I knew did not care about me. I threw away regrets. I turned a 34-year old frown into a smile for once in my life. And tonight I wrote. I didn't care what I wrote, as long as I was writing something. I will write something every day. I'm not going to set a daily word count and feel like a failure if I don't hit it. I'm just going to write and know that each day I have done something. I'm going to Baltimore. I'm not going to look it up on the internet and think how I'll visit "someday". The date is set. I am paying in advance for the hotel and the places we will visit. I am GOING. I'm going to be happy. . . because happiness is mine. I am done letting it be taken from me. So no matter what happens in 2013... It is going to be a great year.